1. Stop Reassuring Your Child.
Yes. You read that right. I am telling you to stop doing something that sounds completely counter-intuitive, right?
I need you stop telling you child that “everything is going to be okay” and “there is nothing to worry about.” I know you have good intentions with these phrases, after all… you just want to comfort your grieving child.
However when you tell them that there is nothing to worry about, is making them feel as if their worries are not important. Maybe something is wrong with them if they are worrying. I am sure that is the opposite of what you are attempting to do.
2. NAME THE FEELING
- I notice you are… (describe the emotion you think you see… upset, scared, frustrated, etc) Pick only one.
- I see your …(describe their body movements, their breathing, their actions).
- Can you name the feeling you are having?